Some fun has to be cut short. I had used my Odeon points to buy tickets to Despicable Me 3. He was so excited but being in the cinema was just too overwhelming for him.
Afterwards he could tell me It was “too dark” and he “didn’t like the screen”. I imagine it’s too bright. I struggled through lighting up his seat with my phone torch, letting him move back etc. Ultimately I called time. He had laughed for a short time at the car chase that is near the beginning and we had managed maybe 30 minutes. He’d shouted through a lot of that though.
Not only did I take a very distressed little boy home, I also had to deal with various difficult behaviours on the way home. In the cafe he threw some wooden stirrers on the floor. Despite having him on reins, he can go on a rampage very quickly.
I know well by now these little acts of rebellion are part of his need to reassert his control over his environment. His Demand Avoidance traits are often particularly on display when he has been anxious.
I had to stop him today from ringing every doorbell we pass. Direct instructions are a red rag to a bull at these times so instead I tried to distract and give him things to look at on the road. Ironically the thing that worked today was he spotted the “Minions bus” (its advertising Despicable Me 3)
We are waiting to hear about the Autism screenings as we want to see Cars 3 and I’d like to see the end of the film!
Little A has a lot of anxiety leaving home. He loves going out and about but getting him there is not fun. Complete corridor meltdowns are frequent.
It has been a learning curve to battle this. Lots of visual prompts, sketch pictures and now photos and we are getting there.
To help him and because he loves his books I finally made him a going out book. I’m not sure if it’s officially a social story, more of a list “I like going to the garden, I can take out my toys” including photos. The place is accompanied by something very motivating for him like walking, taking the scooter or visiting the cafe.
It’s working and we have been for an outing at least two out of four at home days for the last few weeks.
As I want to sometimes venture beyond our home town, I have included some of our favourite places like Kew Gardens, the Splash Zone at Chessington and OF COURSE the London Transport Museum. Well he has woken up everyday this week and the first thing he said “want to go a London Transport Museum, going on the train” And good morning to you too son.
Today I finally gave in. I had to wait for a reasonably short tantrum to finish (just 20 minutes) but after that I grabbed our ticket and we’re on our way.
I wouldn’t say it’s a failed tactic. After another day trapped at home yesterday, I appreciate an outing but I’d really hoped to take him next week.
It seems like we are going to have to work on timing and preparation. The level of motivation of somewhere so cool as LTS is far beyond Little As impulse control at the moment.